school daze

the other day i was on the elliptical at the gym and i noticed a situation through the window beside me. school had just gotten out and all the Abercrombie and Hollister covered kids were making their way to the afternoon hangout at the Y. one of the kids had some art work that he was bringing home from school. it was made with construction paper and some sort of translucent paper that made it look like a detailed stained glass. i noticed on the back bottom corner there was the emblem of the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo art competition. you could tell the kid was proud of it, and he had every right to be.

i watched as he stood and visited with his friends who were all about my oldest son's age, then one of his friends started razzing him. he snatched the kids' creation, laughed at it, and held it up out of his reach and verbally ridiculed him. finally he handed it back, but the look on the artist's face told it all.

i think everyone who grew up in public school had a similar incident. doing things well is sure to bring the scorn of your classmates.

i felt really sorry for the kid and the whole situation got me thinking. how much of my personality was shaped by a vicious peer-group? generally i didn't fall into the group of kids getting bullied because i was somewhat rough (because in an animal-like environment, one can be mean or be eaten), but i can still remember trying to find ways to be cooler or funnier or more stylish. i can remember being so concerned with what others thought of me that it hurt. i remember the ends of summers spent planning how i was going to 'be' that school year. how horrifying was dressing out in gym class? how mortifying was the ill-founded rumor? remember all of the things and ideas one needed to be 'acceptable'?

my parents formed me, but my peer-group raised me.

all these things in mind, what sort of people are my children going to be? they may have 8 hours a week in their peer group, not 8 hours a day. the vast majority of their communication is with adults. there is no pressure to be anything they are not. i honestly can't get my head around the whole thing. their experience is going to be so opposite mine.

they are fortunate beyond reason.

Spring-ish!

it's so exceptionally spring-ish outside that i'm having to restrain myself from trimming the crepe myrtles, pruning back the rose buses, feeding the lawn, and planting the strawberries (yes, i am a glutton for caterpillars and disappointment). somehow i know that i'm jumping the gun by at least two weeks. i always look forward to the cooler part of the year, but i tire of it very quickly.

yesterday, Bryan got home at a decent time so i let him stay with the kids while i went to the Y to workout. i was in the gym for about an hour and a half, then i walked the 1/2 mile track a couple of times. i was the only one out on the track and it was lovely. i daresay there are few things better in life than a walk in silence...

...and i had a thought. during the walk i was completely in tune with the rhythms of my body; my feet hitting the ground, my breath, and my muscles collaborating to move me. it was surreal, it was happening completely out of time with the modern world.

what was the rhythm of life when transportation was on foot or by horse? what is the rhythm of life now? how do these changes change us? feeling and controlling the operation of your body in meditative silence is awareness and mindfulness; riding in a vibrating capsule with music, phone, and (gods forbid!) sometimes tv is numbness and detachment from the self, not to mention one's surroundings. how do these things change our fiber? are we not energy, attuned to vibration and rhythm?

it was a good walk.